I'm going to try and do the Readers Digest version of this. Well, see how it goes. 3 Sundays ago Gavin was brought to me during Sunday school. They said he kept grabbing his throat and saying that it hurt. So, we went home. Took naps. All better.
Next Sunday we are getting ready for church and Gavin tells us he doesn't want to go. And we just shrugged him off. I mean I can tell you 100 things he doesn't want to do in a day. No biggie. After Sacrament I walked him to Primary. He sat with his class and looked at me with his teary, BIG brown eyes and ran after me. I took him into the hall and asked what was the matter and he said he wanted to go home. This proceeded into a HUGE, HUGE fit. I mean he was sobbing so hard. I have never, really I mean never seen him like this. Same thing yesterday.
Now for those of you who know Gavin. Know that this is out of character for him. He is so easy going. One of the happiest kids I know. And doesn't mind change. We just started going to 24hr fitness and I take both boys and drop the off at the day care there. No problem.
I have asked the teachers if anything had happened they said no. Well, yesterday a member in a Primary Pres. said that they think a little boy might have grabbed his throat. It kind of bothers me that they tell me this 3 weeks later.
Gavin is the baby of the bunch. He just turned 3 in Dec.. So, he doesn't have the most elaborate vocabulary and can't express his feelings to say what the problem really is.
And I do have to say one of his teachers has been so SWEET to him. She came by last week to talk with him. She brought the pictures from the lesson that he missed. She even brought him, a little book and a HUGE Easter egg full of cookies. Then yesterday after church she came by to tell him she missed him. And brought 2 beta fish over. She said he can keep one and then he needed to bring the other one to church. Sneaky. Well, see if it works.
So any ideas? This is new ground for me. We do make sure he is in class with Spencer or myself if he isn't in his class, and there is no snacks or toys.
Monday, March 9, 2009
Dilemma
Posted by Amber at 3:34 PM
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Your family is soooo cute. I actually posted some family pictures on my blog and saw your comment. Thanks so much for checking out the blog. I am making a renewed effort now that I have a PC that works. Hope all is well-Jenny
Maybe set up some play dates with the other kids in the class and make sure they are at your home. He'll feel more at ease in his own home and you'll get to supervise. And then he can get to know the kids better and will maybe then look forward to seeing them in primary. That way he'll associate seeing the same kids as fun time.
Oh my word! I would be so frustrated. 3 weeks is a long time to let pass. I'm sorry that you are having to go through this. That is so lame. I hope everything get better soon.
Oh Amber...I am so sorry. I have no advice...kids do their own thing, on there own time, with their own agenda...am I right?
We have had a few instances I will talk with you about in person, so jsut know you are NOT alone. Hang in there, try different things each week (bribery, talked to the leaders to mkae them leave him there, etc.) Bribery works best for us! :)
Lets do a temple trip soon, yeah? Dinner. April, you, us, & Katie (& boys if we want...ha ha ha)
I am SOOOO pissed off right now! Who the hell isn't watching his class??? I mean it's one thing to not be watching like a hawk but to not see a kid get choked in primary? Ridiculous. Personally, I would want to know who choked him to keep him away in the future! I think time will make things better. I think Kiera got hit by a kid in kids klub at the gym, and it took several attempts before she was fine again. Sorry! I'm sad for my Gavie boy. (Kiera's in my ear, saying, Buddy is my favorite boy!) Luv ya, miss ya!
Hi Amber, That really stinks. Especially since he can't tell you all that is happening. I am in the primary presidency in my ward and in defense of all the leaders we do our best to make sure everyone is safe just like parents we don't always see EVERYTHING our kids are doing or not doing, but we try.
I think you may want to try sitting with him for a week or two through primary and then moving to the back of the room the next week and then moving your way out of primary all together. It may take a couple of weeks but it will get him comfortable again. My Charles has a little bully in his class but fortunately for us Charles talks very well and knowing the situation and being in primary I can be more attentive to it. Talk to his teacher, find out if there is a bully in the bunch and ask the presidency to keep a close eye on them. And remember they are only 3 or 4 years old, they just do dumb things sometimes. Good luck!!!
I would have been so p-ved if they waitied 3 weeks to tell me. poor gavin is probably scred and intimidated now! i secong jessica's words! gavin probably need s to know that someone will be there to stick up for him and not allow that to hapen again(which it should be his teacher) I dont know ambular thats a tough one!
So this would work for my boys, so this is my suggestion. Is there a favorite (quiet) toy or comfort object that he is not allowed to have at church? Try bribing him with the fact that he can hold it (only in class) but he has to not cry and stay in class. And remind him that his teacher loves him and I'm sure his teacher would protect him. Good Luck! I know strong willed boys are the most difficult to get them to do something they don't want to.
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